by Kerry Shook

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From Checkmate To Soul Mate (1 of 3)
Series: Soul Mate
Pastor Kerry Shook

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• Ephesians 5:25-32 (NIV)

The purpose of marriage is to model: Christ's Love for the Church

1st Phase: CHECKMATE

The Three Cs of Dating

• Christian

• Character

• Complement

2nd Phase: STALEMATE

• Eph. 5:25-26 (MSG)

To fulfill the purpose the husband needs to:

• Study her constantly
"a love marked by giving, not getting"

• Treasure her privately
"… everything he does and says is designed to bring out the best in her…"

• Praise her publicly
"… His words evoke her beauty…."


Chris and I are just playing a little game of chess; and even though we're only a couple of moves into the game, I can pretty much tell you how it's going to end. And since we're in church, I've got to be totally honest. I have never once beaten Chris at a game of chess. That is on my bucket list. That's one of the things I'm going to do one day is be smart enough to beat her at chess; but, she is a genius in my mind at chess. But, the real reason why we have this giant chess set up here is not so Chris can destroy me once again in a game of chess. It's because this weekend we're starting a new series on dating and marriage, and we really believe that dating and marriage is a lot like a game of chess.

When I was a little kid and all my friends were learning to play Chutes and Ladders, my dad was at home teaching me to play chess; and we would spend hours as he would train me on the best moves to make and how to play, and I never ever won. He made me work for every move, but never let me win; and so now today, 40 years later, I've still never beat my dad at chess, but I used to think that we were just playing a game, just having fun, but since I've come to realize that there are so many things that he was teaching me that applied to life in general and specifically marriage in chess. Things like the importance of strategic thinking …. My dad taught me that there is a ripple effect to every move you make and that you have to be thinking several moves ahead all the time, think about how your actions are going to impact the future, think about what's going to happen next, and I remember when we'd play chess, I'd move - make a move, and then I would look up at him before I took my hand off my piece and see if that one eyebrow went up, which meant, you know, 'ewe' that's not such a good idea, and I'd move my hand back and try again, and in marriage it's the same way. We need to be strategic. We need to think about the actions that we're taking and how they're going to affect the future, you know, maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but in a month, in a year, in a few years and always be looking ahead.

Chess also taught me the need for consistency.
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