The Transition from Hearing to Doing the Word
September 27, 2009
INTRODUCTION: Wisdom Hunter (Prov 30:20)
It is hard to help anyone who is in the wrong and who is in denial of their detrimental deeds. Can someone in denial be helped? Possibly. Will someone in denial change anytime soon? Probably not. Denial is deadly to relationships because it detaches them from the reality of what needs to be done. They are unable to rightly relate to those who feel rejected. Why? Sin seduces us into thinking everyone else is the problem, not me.
An adulterer may blame their bad behavior on not being loved by their mother or father as a child. A person trapped in a cynical cycle can only see how they have been victimized by the unfair practices of others. Or, a chronic cheater blames the system for sending their personal finances into what seems to be a bottomless spiral downward. Whatever a person's struggle, the temptation is to blame others and not take personal responsibility.
So how can we break out of the deadly grip of denial? One way is to accept the consequences of my bad choices and come clean with Christ and others. David found himself in this predicament. After experiencing the fallout from adultery, murder and a rebellious child, he discovered one common denominator, himself. Thus he prayed, "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me" (Psalm 51:10-12).
Lastly, how do you help someone who will not take responsibility for his or her wrongdoing? You trust God by applying tough love. Tough love allows people to fail. It does not bail out someone and prolong the consequences of their crass actions. Tough love, sooner than later, speaks firmly the truth, seasoned with grace. It may require removal from their position before pride begins to lose i ...
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