by Jim Henry

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(Resisting Divorce)
The Way Home Series, Part 13 of 16
Malachi 2:13-16, Ecclesiastes 5:4
Rev. Jim Henry, Pastor
First Baptist Church, Orlando
Sunday 04/09/00, 9:15 A.M. Service

Jay Kesler is a college president who also does
some counseling and writing. In a recent interview he
told a reporter the following story. It was Christmas-
time and he was at a country club. He had sat down at
a table next to a friend who was sitting by himself.
The man, well-loved and well-known in the community,
had just gone through a divorce. He had remarried, as
had his former wife.

Kessler said, "My friend sat silently for
several minutes, his eyes somewhat misty and filled
with regret. Then he said, 'You know, Jay, I often see
my former wife with this other man and, even though
we're divorced and she has every right to be with him,
I really resent him. It looks to me like they are
really happy. I get a horrible, sinking feeling
because I thought our divorce would solve a problem,
but it didn't. I feel like I've lost it all; I'm
convinced that if we had tried harder at our first
marriage. . .' and his voice trailed off.

"Then he said something that seemed extremely
insightful. 'You know, Jay, we should have tried
harder.' After a pause, he added, 'I think we tend to
marry the right person the first time around. What do
you think?' I nodded, "Yes." I answered, "I've noticed
that people usually have some kind of intuitive sense
when they pick their mate. Spending time to make their
relationship work is far superior to giving up." He
agreed. I guess every marriage starts out with all the
anticipation and excitement of new love, but when
things dry up or grow sour it seems somehow easier to
throw it all away and then start over."

We live in what someone has called a "throw-away
society"--a cut flower generation. We throw away
diapers, disposable cameras and just about everything ...

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