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The Deception of Assumptions (20 of 21)
Series: The Promise of a Sound Mind
Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
The Bible says much on the subject of judging. At times we are instructed to judge certain things; other times we are warned not to make ourselves judges. Most of the time when we are instructed to judge, it is in regards to resolving conflict, evaluating what claims to be truth against the scriptures, and evaluating ourselves against the standard of Christ. God does not allow us to judge the hearts of others.
At the heart of assumptions is this one glaring word - judging. When we assume the intent of someone's heart, we are placing ourselves in God's role, assuming we can discern the hidden thoughts of someone else's heart, and then we condemn their intentions. In reality, we are condemning the thoughts of our own heart, which we have assumed, and forced into the motivation behind someone's words or behavior. Our assumptions we are forcing upon others is actually our own judging attitudes.
Back in my school days I had two classes with two girls who were once friends. One mentioned to me that the other girl wasn't speaking to her. "I don't know why she's mad at me," she said.
In the next class the other girl said, "I wasn't mad at Susie until she walked by without saying a word. She used to be my friend, but now she doesn't talk to me." Neither would speak to the other but both assumed the other was angry.
Each person was upset - not because of anything that was said or done - but because they each assumed the other had ill feelings toward them. They went from friends to enemies because they filled the silence between them with assumptions born out of their own hearts. Though it was something conjured up in their own hearts, the assumption was the standard by which each judged the other.
The majority of our conflicts are base ...
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