Conflict and Intimacy (4 of 7) by Zach Terry

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Conflict and Intimacy (4 of 7)
Series: The Song of Solomon
Zach Terry
Song of Solomon 5

INTRODUCTION: If you have been a student of the scriptures for any amount of time you know that Solomon had some real issues in the sexual arena. Ultimately he had 700 wives and 300 concubines. How could this man with this woman blow it so badly? He makes the playboy mansion look JV.

It is no surprise that couples have conflict - two sinners, two problems, bride and groom. Tonight we are going to look at how to handle conflict, specifically as it relates to intimacy.


1. Identify the Conflict
2 "I was asleep but my heart was awake.

You know that place you can be at when you are half asleep and half awake? That's where she was at.

A voice! My beloved was knocking: 'Open to me, my sister, my darling, My dove, my perfect one! For my head is drenched with dew, My locks with the damp of the night.'

It seems that the duties of running the Kingdom had kept Solomon out late - his head drenched with dew means at this time it was well past midnight.

She had been longing, probably preparing for a night with her husband… to no avail.

There are several reasons conflicts begin but they all have as their root unmet desires. The Shulamite desired her husband's presence and he was not there.

Solomon would later write - Hope deferred makes the heart sick.

James tells us that unmet desires are the source of all conflict - James 4:1 What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members?

War without is because of war within

Pleasures translates the Greek word hedone, which often carries with it the connotation of a sinful, self-indulgent pleasure (we get our word "hedonism" from it).

ILLUSTRATION: Divorce - What motivates a couple that years earlier couldn't keep their hands off of each other to get a Divorce? Often, not always, but often - they begin to vi ...

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