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Staying Loyal to Your Mate (3 of 5)
Series: Choosing Your Way To A Great Marriage
Dr. Chuck McAlister
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... Today ... The choice that is essential for the survival of your marriage.
In one of his books, David Semands, a well-known counselor, told about a woman who came in for counseling dressed in a skimpy halter-top and shorts, sitting in a very seductive manner.
David confronted her. "It's obvious from your behavior that you're trying to arouse me sexually," he said. He continued, "I want you to know you've done a good job of it. I'm aroused. Now, what are you going to do about it?"
Suddenly faced with her provocative behavior, the woman began to cry, and what amounted to a breakthrough in her counseling occurred when she admitted that gaining the attraction, and even the lust, of men was what she did to feel good about herself.
* The culture of America has become toxic toward marriage because it so readily accepts the type of behavior engaged in by this woman.
...The kind of faithfulness to your mate that evokes purity, sexually, before you marry and exclusivity to your mate after you marry, is becoming more difficult to find in our risqué society.
...Loyalty to your mate is so important that God chose to make it one of His big ten boundaries for basic behavior in a moral person. When God said, "You shall not commit adultery" (Exodus 20:14) and made it one of His ten commandments, He was saying that your marriage cannot survive without loyalty.
* Having a great marriage is not about finding your soul mate or learning some relationship secret.
* Marriage is a constant and consistent test of character.
...It is not about whether or not you have found the right person. It is about whether or not you are the right person.
...Proverbs 6:27-29 …
"Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
Can one walk on ...
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