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From Insecure to Loving (2 of 9)
September 19, 2004
Steve will intro the clips of love songs.
What is love, from a kid's point of view?
? "When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."
? "When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth."
? "Love is when someone hurts you, and you get so mad, but you don't yell at them because you know it would hurt their feelings."
? "Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen."
? "Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well."
? "Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Brad Pitt."
? "Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."
? "You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."
--("What Is Love--From a Kid's Point of View," LightSinger)
There's a lot more to love than sentimental love songs and cute things that kids have said. But it ain't a bad place to start. All of us are hard wired to crave the attention, affection and devotion of others. At the foundation of mental and emotional health--is the need to be loved. When I meet with people for whom life is especially hard, I usually find a severe deficit in their capacity to feel loved and valued. Children who are deprived of affection and human touch as infants will often struggle with emotional connections for the rest of their lives unless something happens.
When we feel unloved, unvalued, unappreciated--the end result is usually insecurity. Insecurity breeds a vicious cycle. Insecurity makes us needy. Needy people are harder to love. Insecurity m ...
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