Maintaining a Strong Foundation (4 of 8) by James Merritt

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Maintaining a Strong Foundation (4 of 8)
Series: Song of Solomon
James Merritt
Song of Solomon 1


1. There are two types of silence in a marriage. There is a sweet silence and a sour silence. There is a silence of comfort, familiarity, just enjoying being in one another's company that says, ''We don't even need to talk.'' That is not what we just witnessed. This was a sour silence. A silence born out of years of neglected communication. Even though this couple was sitting only a table a part, they as may well have been an ocean apart. As the old song goes, There is a wall between us It is not made of stone The more we are together The more we are alone [Tim - Put on powerpoint underneath pastor.]

2. What you saw is certainly not God's intention for marriage. It is His will for every marriage to be a happy union, not a civil war. Ecclesiastes 9:9 says, ''Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life.'' (Ecclesiastes 9:9)

Proverbs 5:18 says, ''Rejoice in the wife of your youth.'' (Proverbs 5:18)

3.God intention for marriage is that it be one long romantic cruise. Unfortunately, what God intended to be a cruise ship has turned into a battleship and it has taken a lot of shots lately and is rapidly taking on water. A study was released several years ago called, ''The State Of Our Union - The Social Health of Marriage in America''. It was produced by the National Marriage Project at Rutger's University and was conducted by two highly respected researchers, Dr. David Poenoe and Dr. Barbara Defoe Whitehead. They begin their report with this overview. ''Key social indicators suggest a substantial weakening of the institution of marriage. Americans have become less likely to marry. When they do marry, their marriages are less happy. Married couples faced a high likely hood of divorce.'' From that overview, they gave these specifics. * As a couples relationship, marriages are more likely to be broken by divorce than by death. * Americans are living longer, marrying later, exiting marriage more quickly and choosing to live together before marriage, after marriage, in between marriages and as an alternative to marriage. * A growing percentage of American adults will never marry. * Marriage is also quietly losing its place in the language. People now tend to speak inclusively about ''relationships'', ''intimate partners'', and ''significant others.''

4. The number of unmarried co-habiting couples continues to increase (865% since 1960). The number of intact married couples who rate their marriage as ''very happy'' has decreased to 61.9%. It is estimated that after 10 years, only 25% of first marriages are successful (i.e. intact and happy). The percentage of adults who are presently divorced has quadrupled since 1960.

5. If there is any area where the home desperately needs an extreme makeover, it is in the area of restor ...

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