A Wedding or a Hookup? (7 of 13) by Jerry Vines

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A Wedding or a Hookup? (7 of 13)
Series: Sex According to God
Song of Solomon 3:6-11
Jerry Vines

If you should visit an average college campus and just walk around and keep your ears open and listen, it's possible that you might hear a coed say, ''I hooked up last night.'' It is part of a new terminology, unfamiliar to many of us but quite familiar on college campuses and other places. On college campuses young men and women got together and they called that ''hanging out.'' Now they talk about ''hooking up.'' It means that somewhere along in the evening, with alcohol as a very prominent feature of the whole thing, they may stumble into a bed and hook up. It could mean anything from kissing to heavy petting or sexual intercourse. It is sex without commitment. They will pass out sometime during the night. They will wake up the next morning and walk away without any further expectations. They have ''hooked up.''

Sex without commitment. No further relationship intended or desired. Take that same terminology and carry it a step further. In America we have come to see that more and more people are bypassing the wedding ceremony and official marriage altogether. They are hooking up or cohabiting.

Listen to some things I ran across in my study and preparation for this message. Here's what one girl said about marriage. ''It's just a piece of paper to me. I consider myself married without that. There's more freedom. I'm allowed to do whatever I like.''

Here's what another one said about weddings and marriage: ''It's outmoded. I'm just as committed to the relationship as I would be if I were married.''

Instead of a wedding, more and more are saying, ''Let's just have a hookup.''

The question is, is it working? Is it paying off? Listen to this information I gleaned. Only one in six live-ins last at least three years. Hooking up increases the risk in future marriages of divorce and domestic violence for women and child abuse. They are more likely to have an affair during marriage than those who don't.

Dr. Daniel Akin said, ''It is sex without strings. Relationships without rings.'' Hooking up!

There is something missing from all of this. What is missing is that the Bible teaches love, marriage, and sex are by God's design. It is God who put together the institution of marriage.

Hebrews 13, verse 4 says this. ''Marriage is honorable in all.'' In other words, it is a divinely sanctioned institution. Then it says, ''The bed undefiled.'' That means sex is not dirty. It is God's idea.

You may remember in the book of Genesis, when we are told about Adam and Eve, that the Lord brought them together in a publicly sanctioned way and when they were brought together, they consummated their marriage. The Bible says they were both unclothed and they were not ashamed. It was God's divine intention that there be a wedding and that there also be marriage and then sex in that order.

We are going to go to a wedding this morning. Maybe y ...

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