Forgive One Another by Miles Seaborn



Ephesians 4:30-32

INTRODUCTION: Ephesians 4:3 says,

“Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving
one another even as God in Christ has forgiven you.”

An unforgiving spirit creates all kinds of problems in the
life of an individual. In my pastoral ministry I have
counseled some who have physical difficulties, not because
of sickness, not because of injury, but because of attitudes
in their hearts. Many psychiatrists have observed that
people who have emotional problems often have an unforgiving
spirit. That's why Paul was directed by the Holy Sprit to
write Ephesians 4:30,32.

ILL. Of death from bitterness
“And grieve not the Holy Spirit of God whereby
ye are sealed unto the day of redemption; let all
bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and
evil speaking be put away from you with all malice,
and be ye kind to one another, tenderhearted,
forgiving one another even as God for Christ’s sake
has forgiven you.”

This morning let's simply try to answer a few questions
about this matter of family forgiveness. Remember, Paul
is not talking about God's forgiving us of our sins for
salvation; he was talking about family members forgiving
one another misunderstanding and grievances. Those in
the church family who needed to forgive one another is
the subject.


1. A corrupted communication.

I think the greatest evidence is the way we
talk about people. In this message, Paul had a
great deal to say about speech. For example he
said in Eph. 4:29:

“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of
your mouth, but that which is good and to the
use of edifying or building up, that it may
minister grace to the hearers.”

When we have an unforgiving spirit we say things
About people that we should not say. Have you noticed that?

ILL. In Verse 31 Paul talked about
evil speaking. I'm the kind of person
that immediately jumps at the chance to
say something evil or derogatory or negative
about a person, that literally means in my
heart I'm holding some sort of feelings or
grudge against him. one of the first evidences
of an unforgiving spirit is what we say about
people. If we cannot say something good it
may mean that we have something bad in our
hearts. Beware of the words “I’ll never forgive

2. Inner feelings.

Another evidence of an unforgiving spirit is
bad feelings on the inside. Sometimes we are able
to control our tongue; sometimes we are able to
close our lips and not say anything evil about
someone, but people would be shocked if they
could see what we feel in our hearts.

In Ephesians 4:31 Paul talked about bitterness.
Someone hurts us and we get bitter. Bitterness
is to the heart what infection is to the body.

ILL. I can remember as a boy of having
a friend who was plagued with boils. Oh,
how they hurt him. Obviously something was

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