Okay, So You're Not Bill Cosby
I Thessalonians 2:8-12
June 20, 1993 am
Introduction: In his book Promises to Peter, Charlie Shedd tells how the title of his message on parenting changed with his experience of fatherhood. In his early years on the speaking circuit, before he was a father, he called it "How to Raise Your Children." People came in droves to hear it. Then Charlie had a child, it was a while before he gave that message again. When he did, it had a new name; "Some Suggestions to Parents." Two more children and a number of years later, he was calling it "Feeble Hints to Fellow Strugglers." Several years and children later, he seldom gave that talk. But when he did, his theme was "Anyone here got a few words of wisdom?" Certainly every parent can identify with that feeling. (Swindoll, Strong Family, p.10)
Ephesians 6:4 gives fathers a one-sentence job description. It explains our responsibility in terms on one negative and one positive admonition. And fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Five Mistakes We Make As Fathers
• Criticism. Their are numerous ways to criticize children-belittling their character, ignoring their accomplishments, calling them names, or using a sarcastic tone of voice.
• Control. In an effort to protect some may be overly strict. Rules and restrictions are necessary but we should strive for balance. Try to say yes as much as possible, reserving no for the very important situation that you feel strongly about.
• Irritability. Too frequently we allow the pressures of life to control us and we end up cutting off communication with our children.
• Inconsistency. Changing rules and conflicting messages will exasperate a child more than almost anything. Never make promises you can't or won't keep.
• Favoritism. While different children have different needs no child should feel that you love his/her sibling more.
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